I am Devastated!!

Friday, June 7, 2013

Where to start..Had court this morning was only supposed to last 15 mins, it lasted about and hour and a half. We went in there because what we though was going to be the contempt charge, was not.. They scheduled his counter claim that's what we went for. I came out of there crying my eyes out.. So here it goes... 

    His lawyer tried to say he couldn't afford the house, car and pay child support that sometimes he only brings home 3$ a week when he works..The Judge made me choose between the car or the house. I told him the car because I could move, but I needed the car to get the kids where they need to go and I needed to get to work. The Judge ordered my ex to keep paying the house payment and to get it caught up. Judge ordered that he have every other week with the children, my girls will be with their father who hasn't spent any time with them but an hour maybe every other weekend, since last March. A man who was never around to help out when they were growing up. I was there every single day with them 24/7 since their birth. I cried..I didn't want this at all, His mother sat there huffing and puffing slapping her leg because she doesn't have room to keep them at her house, this was her words not mine. My car will be repoed, however he is ordered to give me 2000 to put down on another car and I make those payments. If he doesn't he has to give me his truck to drive. Judge asked me if it was OK that he took the 2000 out of his 401k I said that was fine. The car will be in my name I will be responsible for the payment taxes and tags that way he can not come and take the tags like he did before. I told the judge I did not want him to have the kids for a whole week because he was abusive to them and it is in my statement and my mothers statement because she saw it. his lawyer fought that and I lost, he gets them every other week, The girls said they do not want to go at all..he has a couple days to get the 2000$ up because I work. oh and they dropped his child support, so the only thing he pays is the house payment. That's it!! And its so far behind there is no way he will ever be able to catch it up.